It does not matter whether your husband is representing himself, the attorney still has to respect a proper service. You need to remind him that as a Pro Se Litigant, he will respect you the same as any other attorney.

But remember, part of being an attorney is trying to intimidate the other attorney, and make them stumble.

And that can be a problem with going Pro Se, because you don’t have the training or experience to know when this is going on, and how to respond to it.