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Month: December 2016

Skill in negotiating is certainly one of the keys

Skill in negotiating is certainly one of the keys in successful co-parenting. Here’s an applicable business perspective:

You must have a firm perspective on what you absolutely need from the negotiation — and also know what you will not accept.

So, go in believing that no matter how much you want it, you’re going to be all right without it. Your confidence will set the tone. Then try these tips to seal the deal:

  • Build trust. Be helpful, honest, and positive. Look for ways for everyone involved in the negotiation to come out on top whenever possible. The goal of every negotiation should be to create a win-win situation.
  • Information is power. Try to get as much information from your competition as you can. Then plan to be judicious about the information that you give back. Don’t give out information that is not necessary or data that could weaken your position.
  • Stay cool. Never let your emotions do the negotiating for you. But at the same time, realize that your emotions will likely be stirring pretty strongly inside — just be sure to keep them there. If you do find yourself about to become visibly upset, take a powder and come back when your head’s clear.
  • Take your time. Don’t ever let it seem like you’re trying to rush a deal.
  • Never just give anything away, even if its something you don’t attach much value to. Every point in a negotiation can be used as leverage for something that is important to you.
  • Make a mental list of possible concessions that you don’t really care about. You can use these as bargaining chips to get something you want without really losing anything of significance.

I just had 910$ deducted from my Filed Federal return

I just had 910$ deducted from my Filed Federal return, on top of already disputed arrears which will probably not be returned to me, on top of them taking OVER the arrears amount due by 730$. I added both the overpayment and the return deduction and it comes out to 1640$ that they have taken from me. I called all the Child support agencies and even went down in person to fight this. They produced a payment history and even though on THEIR form it shows I have paid over the amount, they cant do anything as the OTHER system they use did not tell them this was overpaid?!?!?!?

That was not what I wanted to happen. I did a quick search in Google and found website which helped me to get an overnight loan very fast. What a relief! It helped me to pay my utility bill on time.

Anyway, I do not know what to do from this point on. Going from what their customer service people tell me as they wont let you speak to anyone in charge besides a manager who only runs the office, is that I will be lucky if they ever find this money. Does anyone know how I might get my money? I use this money to pay for a lawyer so I won’t loose partial custody of my dear son!

Expecting an attack

I hope you are keeping a journal on anything they may be repeating. Don’t ask for details, just write don’t what they say. Parental Alienation is a common tactic, and you have to be ready for it.

Unfortunately, it is very easy for a mother to do this to the children. There is a bonding between children and their mother that exceeds understanding. That is why children are much less likely to report abusive mothers, then are are for fathers. Even if the abusive is so severe as to be fatal.

I had a call, just an hour ago, from the mother of my home aid, Kimberly. Kimberly’s children have lived most of the life with their grandparents, but yet Kimberly has got them convince that they are unloving and uncaring.

And she only sees them once a week. I know these people, and I know better. But, it shows how easy it is for mothers to manipulate their children. and that is something you need to be watchful for. I have seen hundreds of such cases over the last decade.

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